ADDICTION AND FAMILY
Candid Parenting Tips from a Former Drug Addict Who Had Loving Parents and a Proper Upbringing. I hope this story helps parents spot unhealthy signs in the event their child is moving towards addiction. If my story could change one life or prevent one addiction, that will be more than enough of a reward.
Living with an addict is not only heartbreaking but can be potentially dangerous. Between accidental exposure and the danger of having illegal drugs in your home, living with an addict can be a huge liability. Living with a heroin addict could even mean someone could overdose in your house.
I’ll start from the beginning. When my son was 13, I noticed a change. Maybe it was hormonal. That happens. Denial. At 16, I noticed even more of a change. Maybe it’s a girl. Another denial. Maybe it was the fact I had remarried as did his dad. Denial again. Anger, outrage, being disrespectful.
Someone you care about is clearly an addict. Or, not so clearly… maybe you suspect it. If you suspect it, they usually are. Let’s face it, the signs of drug addiction are not subtle. However, it’s not something anybody wants to be true. We don’t want THAT to be happening.
“I feel like a new man. I feel really great being sober. I'm not thinking about my past mistakes or my drug addiction. This is the best program. I am glad to know that life is too good to not be sober.…“
“What they don’t know, won’t hurt them.” We often justify our wrong doings with the idea the action we’re taking only effects ourselves. Regardless of whether someone else can objectively see what it is we’re doing, one's actions can influence something negative in another's life.
How could she use drugs? Look what a beautiful child she has….. How could someone choose drugs over their own baby? Shouldn't her child be enough to get her sober? These are just a few questions and comments people make when the topic is brought up of a mother who is also a drug addict.
I feel I have gotten honest with myself and my family and am a happier person because of it. After completing the program, I have become a totally different person than I was before entering.
This is the type of conversation I would have with my Mother when I was using drugs. Everything seemed relatively normal and to her, it seemed as if I was doing fine. What really happened is a different matter….
Throughout life, I have encountered numerous traumatic events. One of the hardest events was when my parents divorced. I didn’t know how to deal with the emotions I encountered going through it. It was so overwhelming and I felt very isolated. Between 40% – 50% of marriages end in a divorce.