We started to have some pretty serious fights and I began to see that he was lying to me about things. This went on for a while and he would lie, we would fight, and then we would make up. Eventually, I had enough and left and we didn’t talk for a while. During that time people started telling me Jeff had started using heroin. At some point, I made an excuse to go to his house and see for myself what was going on. He was a mess and looked like a completely different person. He was gaunt and unkempt and I could visibly see he was miserable and in pain.
After seeing him that night, I told myself I had to help him in some way. I still loved him and cared about him and seeing him in that condition broke my heart. Every day after work I would go over to his house to hang out with him. I could tell when he was lying and tell me he hadn’t used that day, but I figured at least for the time I was physically with him, he wouldn’t have a needle in his arm. This didn’t last for very long and I could tell he was getting worse and using more and more.
I began to find drugs, needles, spoons, and empty baggies all over his house in different hiding spots. When I would confront him about the things I would find, he would quickly jump down my throat and tell me it was someone else’s and make me wrong for going through his stuff and not trusting him. For a while we were researching different rehabs but could never find one which seemed like a good solution. At some point I decided to walk away completely. Jeff was on a quick decline and I knew soon enough he would end up dead or in jail and I couldn’t watch him do that to himself. After a couple months of us not talking, he called to tell me he was going to rehab in Louisiana and that he never wanted to speak to me again. I didn’t care if I never spoke to him again, as long as he was going to get help.
He went to Narconon Louisiana in July of 2012 and I didn’t talk to him at all during his program. He graduated around Thanksgiving and called me when he got home. When I talked to him that day, he sounded like a completely different person. He sounded happy and healthy and like he had really turned his life around. I knew immediately he was different because one of the first things he said that day was “ask me anything you feel like I lied to you about in the past and I’m going to tell you the truth right now so there are no more secrets.” I thought, who is this person!! From that point forward we began rebuilding our relationship. He has now been sober almost 3 years and is one of the best people I know.
Our relationship now is better than I could have ever imagined back then. We are open and honest and we communicate through everything. We bring out the best in each other and work together as a team. For the first time since I met him, I can see a future together which is what I always wanted but never thought I would get.
Narconon Louisiana gave me my best friend back, for which I am forever grateful.